Being Responsible For Yourself

Each and every action, reaction, or choice leads us to other paths or places in life. That opens up new doorways to exploration and knowledge. We are constantly growing and taking in everything around us. Holding on for the "good" things and putting your focus on the bad can be extremely toxic to your mental well-being. You can move past this and can start to view things in a new light or open new ways of thinking. This also opens new doorways for us to explore. Different views, trying to see things from a neutral perspective to understand why you acted the way you did, or why that person angered you so deeply. Getting to the root of what is bothering you and why it's bothering you. Accepting these emotions that are arising in yourself and understanding yourself, and others did the best you could at that point in time. You must learn to forgive yourself for the parts you played, and the ways you reacted. And you must learn to forgive the other person in order to heal and move on. You must create the peace you so desperately need.

Now, this is not an easy thing to do. It can be very difficult to forgive someone who we feel has wronged us or treated us badly. Look beyond what you can see in front of you for actual truth, real perception on the matter. Open your heart and find love for the person who struggles to see things as you do. Ignorance of how you acted can hurt and be painful. Just be fully present and honest with yourself. As long as you can acknowledge this, you can transmute the energy by recognizing its purpose and why it's inside of you and then letting it fall away and choosing ways that feel more in alignment with who you truly are. Ignorance only comes from a place of lacking knowledge. Once you realize your actions you gain knowledge to grow from. New perspectives to see. Places you can work on yourself to become a more balanced individual. It is up to you to see these ways and correct them. It is not on anyone else, especially if another person is involved. They are on their own journey and are perceiving things very differently from you. They are also ignorant in their ways, they can not see the pain coming from inside themselves. And so, they are not yet willing to face it. It is not walking on the path of weakness to see beyond what is in front of us and start to recognize there is so much more that is playing into this. It takes a lot of mental willpower to see beyond what is going on in front of our eyes. It takes time and practice to understand the way our minds work and redirect ourselves to be aware of each and every moment. The path of forgiveness is one of the hardest ones to take. It's not easy to just forgive someone, and it doesn't happen overnight. It happens with awareness, patience to see things as they are, love and understanding of what's going on, and time to accept things as they are. It is easy to blame, point the finger, get angry, and lash back. It's easy to let someone else be the villain and take on the victim role. These things are not just staying in the past after they have happened, and they can continue to have their effects on our psyche later on in life if we choose not to deal with them.

It is such a blessing to be able to expand and learn new ways of thinking and being. It's important to become aware of yourself. Fully aware. Be aware of your emotions, thoughts, and actions. Only you are responsible for what you put out into this world. Therefore, you must be the only one to see things as they are and make changes as needed. Becoming aware of yourself helps you to be able to see things from a bigger picture. To take a step back and realize things may not be the way they seem. Memories of the past are full of our experiences. How we experienced this and that in life. Depending on what was going on or how the environment played out, paints a mental picture of how we "thought" everything went. If we were to go back and review the memory without judgment and emotions, things would feel a lot differently. Because they are.

Life is like an ebb and flow. It comes and goes. Things just are as they are supposed to be. Learning to ride the waves and not drown is key. This also ties into conditionings put deep inside us from our past experiences, as well as future anxieties and stress. Learning to live in the now is so important. To find stillness and clarity in life when it feels so chaotic is magical. You must let go of things that are not true of yourself. Things that happened in the past no longer exist. They are not tangible things that can actually do any harm to you anymore. Realize this and how strong you are to have already overcome such a thing. Find empowerment that these things dwelling in the past can no longer have an effect on you.

Once you know this, you can free yourself from living in the past or through conditions put into yourself that do not hold any truth. You can piece together why things affect you the way they do and observe from a neutral perspective and uncover many truths. As you uncover more and more truths about yourself, you grow in a loving and understanding relationship, with yourself! You can trust yourself to be more loving and accepting when trying times arise. You have a better-balanced grip on your emotions and thoughts that are going through your mind. You won't feel all over the place and sporadic, because you are balanced and in alignment with who you truly are. Places where holes and pain we feel deep inside ourselves start to fill with knowledge, love, and peace as you accept yourself in this time now. You feel whole and natural in this state. It's not natural for you to hold onto feelings of jealousy, resentment, hate, guilt, anger, or any hurtful ways you feel about yourself such as not being good enough, feeling like a failure, or thinking you are the lowest of low or the worst of the worst. Maybe, at that moment in time, you did act according to how you felt or thought. That was all you knew and so you must learn to forgive and move past the pain, fears, and worries that are bringing about these polarities of emotions. Embrace yourself in your truest nature using each day as an advantage to try to do something different, experience life from new perspectives, and always grow in knowledge with what we have learned.

Live in the now, Love in the now!

-Blake